Book Reviews

Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It

Chris Voss’s Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It is a masterclass in the art of negotiation taught by a seasoned expert who’s been in the trenches of high-stake deals. Voss, with his rich background from policing the streets to leading international kidnapping negotiations for the FBI, distils his extensive experience into practical strategies that are as applicable in everyday life as they are in life-or-death situations.

What makes this book stand out is its blend of gripping storytelling and actionable advice. Voss doesn’t just tell you what works; he shows you, through vivid recounting of real-life scenarios ranging from intense hostage situations to complex business negotiations. His approach is deeply rooted in understanding human psychology, emphasising emotional intelligence and the power of empathy. This perspective shifts the traditional negotiation paradigm from a battle of wills to a nuanced dance of understanding and influence.

The nine principles Voss outlines are counterintuitive, challenging conventional wisdom with tactics like “mirroring” and “labelling” to connect on a deeper emotional level with counterparts. These strategies are designed to disarm and redirect, proving that being persuasive isn’t about talking; it’s about listening and understanding.

The book’s conversational tone makes these high-level negotiation tactics accessible. Voss’s advice feels like getting insider tips from a wise mentor. It’s packed with nuggets of wisdom that are easy to grasp and apply, whether you’re looking to improve your salary negotiation skills, buy a car, or navigate a disagreement at home.

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